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I’m Samorn Selim. 

I’m a lawyer turned career coach on a mission for us to take our careers from dread to joy. As the daughter of poor Lao refugees, I was told to pay my dues.

After coaching over 1,000 clients, I now realize that the idea that you have to pay your dues and work in a toxic place is a myth. 

We can face our challenges head on, do work we are passionate about, and work with good people with kind hearts to make a big impact. So even as we struggle, we can find a sense of belonging.

May 16, 2023


Did you grow up feeling like you didn’t belong?  And you want to find a sense of community?

In this episode with Ny Derry, we discuss:

- What it means to feel like a “throwaway” because our families are refugees from Laos.

- How our cultural backgrounds make us “workaholics” and how managing so many identities (employee, mother, daughter, wife, sister, friend, and more) can lead us to abandon ourselves.

- Why it’s important to acknowledge mental health issues like postpartum depression, and ask for help.

- What you need to say during difficult conversations with your family (partner, parents, children) to make the best decisions for yourself and your loved ones.

- How the lack of language can make it hard for us to express our feelings to our parents, and how to bridge the gap for intergenerational conversations with language.  

- Why it’s important to create a place for the community to come together and find a sense of belonging, and what you can do if you feel inspired to create something new for your community.

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